I said last week that I would write more about mindset so this week I’m going to show you how you can turn fear and self-limiting beliefs around so you live your very best life.
I grew up in a highly dysfunctional family so by the time I was a young adult all I knew was fear and that I was never going to amount to anything. What that did for me was to give me a set of self-limiting beliefs that for many years stopped me from achieving what I wanted in life.
They were all things that I had heard over the years and so I believed that other people could be successful but I couldn’t.
Although the changes didn’t occur over-night, had I not learned how to become consciously aware so I could think differently, I would not have become a clinical hypnotherapist and coach or written a book when I was 65 and I most definitely would not be the woman I am today!
When you tell yourself “I can’t do that, it won’t work” turn it around and instead start to say “I can do anything I choose to do if I take action.” If you turn negative thoughts around so that your thinking gradually becomes full of positives, you will achieve whatever you want in life.
From childhood, we tell ourselves so many stories from what we learn around us, from society, teachers, parents etc. For some people they might believe that other people are wiser and smarter and that they simply cannot match up with their intelligence. For others, they may end up with a mindset of living small because every time they didn’t succeed, instead of being encouraged and motivated to do better they were praised and accepted anyway so they never learned to reach higher.
Over the years whenever I counseled anyone that had problems believing in their own abilities, I would ask “what did you hear when you were growing up?” The client would usually remember what and how something was said to them and yet they heard it in a different way, leading ultimately to them having a limiting belief about themselves.
Once we discovered where that limiting belief came from, they started taking action to change their thinking so that they believed in themselves and their own abilities.
How about labels? Sometimes we are given labels and all too often, we have no clue that we don’t have to accept or identify with those labels. We may be taught that Johnny is the math genius while Suzy is the musician in the family – a limiting belief that we go forward with, thinking that’s what we are supposed to do.
You can of course change those labels by changing the way you think so that you can be whatever you wish to be. Over the years, one of the questions I’ve been asked by clients has been “how can I change the self-limiting beliefs so they don’t get in my way?”
*Recognize that you can change your labels at any time. You just have to be willing to take the action and work on making the changes. Just change your thinking around so you throw out the “I cant’s” or “what if’s” and say yes I can instead.
*Don’t set the bar too high, as unrealistic expectations and goals are not beneficial.
*Don’t set the bar too low so that no challenge or growth is initiated.
Once I recognized that I had bought into giving myself labels, I threw them out all out. I started to realize that if I thought differently, I could actually do and become whatever I wanted in life.
Learn what your own weaknesses are. Then you can then concentrate on how to change them. Challenge yourself to reach greater heights so that you believe in yourself.
Also, remember there is no such thing as perfection, it’s about doing the best you can. If you aim for perfection you will find it very challenging to achieve what you want in any area of your life.
When it comes to changing the way you think, it also means being aware of the words you speak. The words that come out of your mouth are what you are thinking in your mind, so becoming aware of what you say will help you to achieve what you want much faster.
Remember always that you have a choice. Have a fantastic week.
‘Til next time
Live life with abundance